Living in the Moment

Mindfulness can be seen as the practice of “being in the moment” – but what does this actually mean? Does it mean that if we’re mindful we should never think about the past or the future, never try to plan or to reflect on our past experience?

Actually, being in the moment means being mindfully aware of what is going on right here and now, in our experience, and this includes any thinking we do about the past or future. I never put much thought into this notion until I became a mother.

It began when my son, Ethan, began displaying poor sleeping habits. Ethan was a great sleeper from the start, but when he turned six weeks of age, sleep became a thing of the past. He developed ‘sensitivity to dairy’ and ‘reflux.’ So in his discomfort, sleep eluded him and kept both my husband and myself up during the night. I attempted to try to solve the problem and found a product called Colic Calm, which did help slightly, but didn’t come close to “solving” any issue. Our frequent and pleasant trips to the beach were soothing, but again, did not seem to tire him out enough to solve his problems.

It just so happened that around this time, I began implementing meditation into my daily routine. After realizing how stressed, tired, and over-reactive to Ethan’s behaviors I was becoming, it dawned on me that I needed to start doing something for myself as well. I suddenly found myself calmer. Collected. I found myself able to concentrate on what was currently happening. Instead of obsessing about Ethan not staying asleep in his crib, I found comfort that he slept in my arms. My meditation sessions grew longer and I found myself looking forward to cuddling him, rocking him, and enjoying the silent moments we got to spend together. The house suddenly relaxed.

After a few weeks of this, my son’s reflux dissipated. While I do believe that there were other factors that played in this sudden resolve, I also believe that children are amazing balls of energy that cannot help but absorb the energy around them. Ethan’s behaviors were a direct result from all the anxious and nervous energy I was bringing into the house.

Through these phases and through other personal phases of my life as a mother, I have found that patience and mindfulness help ease the tribulations that parents often go through. I’ve learned to be in the moment. To take deep breaths. To relax a little more. To live in the moment because, in the end, a life is measured by moments like these.

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What I Loved About Pregnancy

Since we formally introduced our company and provided you, the reader, with a little insight of how BB Waters came to be, I thought it only natural to write a blog based on what I loved most about being pregnant and why I love parenthood so much!

I recently read an article that opened with a piece of advice, “Just like a good wife never complains about her husband, a good mother never complains about her pregnancy.”  I’ve often heard that saying in regards to husbands, but I’ve never heard it applied to pregnancy before.  It dawned on me the reasons why a saying like this would exist and I began chronicling all of the aspects of pregnancy that I truly loved.

While some may find it arguable, I think it is true – a good mother never complains about her pregnancy.  There are so many times a woman is pregnant in a lifetime and it seems cavalier, even detrimental to spend it complaining.  Sure, it can be hard at times, uncomfortable, mentally draining, and physically excruciating at times, but this is all part of the miracle of pregnancy – and it IS truly a miracle.

I was grateful to be pregnant.  I do admit that during my first trimester, I wasn’t totally in love with all of the changes my body underwent.  Losing my abs and experiencing hormonal changes wasn’t always a mental walk in the park.  The morning sickness and the nauseous feeling after eating meals were not at the top of my “favorite things about today” list.  At about my fourth month though, I read Brain Rules by John Medina.  In his pregnancy chapter, he uncovers many new insights about a baby’s mental life in the womb and delves into the mystery of how brains develop – all starting from a handful of tiny cells.  I realized it was time to change my attitude and really focus on all of the things that are so wonderful about being pregnant – not only for myself, but for the health of my child.

I allowed myself to embrace pregnancy and to connect with my changing (and growing) body as well as connect to the little being inside my belly.  I miss that belly.  The second half of my pregnancy was more nurturing than I could have ever imagined.  Coming to the realization that I was going to miss all of the great moments by focusing on the not-so-great moments allowed me to experience more compassion and mental connection than ever before.

There are only a number of times a mother feels her baby kick.  A limited number of times a mother watches her body grow a baby.  A limited number of times a mother gets to hold her new infant for the first time.  These are the moments I want to remember.

For me, pregnancy is the grandest example of the body’s amazing capacity to grow life and the soul’s ability to love someone without ever meeting.